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I'M NOT A
MALE|

please, just call me by my gender! 🙄

   
 * why not “a female” or “a male”?
 * why not “a they/them”, “a she/her”, etc.?
 * instead try…
   


WHY NOT “A FEMALE” OR “A MALE”?


 * THOSE WORDS DESCRIBE SEX, NOT GENDER.
   
   gender is about our identity and expression – things that actually matter in
   our everyday lives. “biological sex”, on the other hand, relates to things
   like chromosomes, gonads, genitals – if you're not someone's doctor or
   something, then focusing on them so much is… kinda creepy 😬




 * THEY'RE BIOLOGICAL TERMS
   
   they're mostly used for animals (who don't have genders). think of nature
   documentaries and sentences like “the male tries to seduce the female with
   his birdsong”.
   
   sure, humans are part of the animal kingdom too. but we're undeniably
   different from other animals – reducing us to only our “zoological” nature
   while dismissing culture and civilisation is quite insulting.




 * IT MAKES YOU SOUND LIKE A COP
   
   law enforcement uses those terms to distance themselves from the perp's
   humanity.
   
   think of sentences like “the officers have identified a 45yo black male as a
   primary suspect, he was resisting arrest and got fatally wounded as a
   result”.




 * IT MAKES YOU SOUND LIKE AN INCEL
   
   “females” and even “femoids” or “foids” is a common vocabulary among incels –
   they don't consider women fully human and emphasise it in the language they
   use.




 * IT MAKES YOU SOUND LIKE A TRANSPHOBE
   
   transphobes are obsessed with people's genitals at birth and deliberately
   emphasise someone's “biological sex” to misgender them.
   
   they literally made “adult human female” their identification mark.




 * THE USAGE IS USUALLY NOT SYMMETRICAL, SKEWED AGAINST WOMEN
   
   There's an entire subreddit, /r/MenAndFemales, collecting instances of people
   using “a female” and “a man” in the same sentence (as well as infantalising
   adult women as “girls”).




 * IT MAKES YOU SOUND LIKE A FERENGI
   
   srsly, just stop




WHY NOT “A THEY/THEM”, “A SHE/HER”, ETC.?


 * PEOPLE AREN'T PRONOUNS
   
   pronouns are just parts of speech, they're tools that we use to communicate
   and to describe ourselves and the world around us. just because someone wants
   to be referred to using a particular set of pronouns, doesn't mean you should
   see their entire personhood as if it was solely defined by that fact.




 * NOT ALL NONBINARY PEOPLE USE “THEY/THEM”
   
   as a matter of fact, every person regardless of gender can use whatever
   pronouns they want. many enbies use binary forms (“she/her”, “he/him”), many
   use neopronouns (like “xe/xem”, “fæ/fær”). don't just assume.




 * ITS USAGE IS NOT SYMMETRICAL, SKEWED AGAINST TRANS PEOPLE
   
   i don't think i've ever seen a cis person described with “she's a she/her” or
   “he's a he/him”. for some reason people only tend to do that when they talk
   about trans and gender non-conforming people. almost as if they didn't treat
   our identity seriously or something…




INSTEAD TRY…

> “a woman”

simple as that. there's a perfectly good word to describe a woman that has none
of the problems mentioned above. just call women “women” 🤷

> “a man”

yup! this simple trick also works for men!

> “an enby”*

well, to be honest, some nonbinary people don't like this word, because it was
originally meant be an equivalent to “girl” and “boy”, not “woman” and “man”.
although, it seems like adults are actually embracing it as well 😉

> “a nonbinary person”

it's a bit long, sure… but calling a nonbinary person “a nonbinary person” is a
definitely a safe and respectful way to describe / address them.

> “a person”

because, well… how often does it really matter what gender someone is? we're all
people. you can't go wrong with simply calling a person “a person”.

 * made by andrea vos
 * avris.it
 * @andrea

 * inspired by nohello.net
 * using Noto Emoji