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SEX COUNSEL


CAN I MAKE MY MARRIAGE AS HOT AS MY AFFAIR?


Suzi Godson

Saturday March 09 2024, 12.01am, The Times

Q. After a short, doomed but exhilarating affair in which I felt more alive than
I have in years, I confessed all to my wife, whom I still love. After
counselling, we both committed to rebuilding our relationship. I know I’ve done
the right thing in choosing my marriage over my mistress, but is it possible for
us to start a new chapter that excites us both?

A. Sometimes the things that people leave out of their letters tell me more than
the things that they put in. You say, for example, that you and your wife have
been through counselling together, and that you are certain that you have made
the right decision to stay in the marriage, but you don’t say anything about


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